Rose, Thorn & Spaghetti
With the Corum Crew’s schedules, time together around our house can be a little hectic. Between work and sports and other activities sometimes our dinners tend to happen later than we prefer. By the time we are prepping the meal we have kids who are getting cranky because, rightfully so, are hungry…in fact they are “hangry”—the combination of being hungry and angry! They become impatient and are seeking snacks as we are pleading with them to be patient. We are requesting their assistance to help with dinner by setting the table and such, as we are becoming frustrated because of their actions. The words that come out of our mouths are “we are hurrying as fast as we can”! Unfortunately the tone sometimes is more out of our frustration with their attitudes. But honestly, they are just being kids and they are HUNGRY! By the time dinner is on the table and we sit together as a family we are all “hangry”! It’s time to take a deep breath and bow our heads in prayer and ask our Heavenly Father to bless the food we are about to receive, our conversation and our fellowship.
To avoid any further bickering or challenges with the kids we often play a family game while we eat. It’s usually Illianna, our ten year old, who requests a game of “Rose, Thorn & Spaghetti”. This gives each of us an opportunity to share with our family what happened during our day. We go around the table starting with “Rose”. Your “Rose” is the brightest thing that happened during your day. It could be an accomplishment or achieving a goal that you had set for yourself. It may be a great play you experienced at football practice. Or, maybe it was a good grade that you made on a school assignment. It’s anything that brought you great joy or excitement during your day! Next we share our “thorn”. Your “thorn” is really the opposite of your “rose”. This is something that didn’t go so well during your day. It may be a disagreement you had with a friend or a pain you experienced during recess. It could be something that disappointed you at some point that you need to share just to get it off your chest. Finally, it’s time for “spaghetti”! The funniest thing that happened during the day is your “spaghetti”! Whatever made you laugh or giggle. The Corum kids love to share their “spaghetti”! It’s always fun to discover what is funny to our children. Sometimes, admittedly, these comical moments get a little corny but that is half the fun. We find that our family dinners are an enjoyable time together when we are able to share with one another and everyone has an opportunity to speak.
It’s easy to allow the busyness of life to get in the way of expressing joy. We are all blessed with unique personalities and if we are not cautious we can rob the joy of others in our lives. Purposeful times are important in families to have the opportunity to express ourselves as individuals. Whether you take the time to gather around a table and share your “Rose, Thorn & Spaghetti” or use another way that works for your family, it is so important to take the time to be quiet and listen for your children to express themselves in a joyful manner.
“A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” Proverbs 17:22
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