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What are your Non-Negotiables?


Taking care of me is a non-negotiable.


There are several non-negotiables in my life that I take seriously.  What exactly is a non-negotiable?  It’s something that is not open for discussion or modification.  Non-negotiables are prioritized and they are not compromised.  They are ideas or objections that are set in stone.  To ensure you maintain balance and stability in life you have to set non-negotiables for yourself and it’s important that your family and your friends understand what they are, not only for the value you place on them but also for accountability.   


Some of us may set more non-negotiables for ourselves than others.  That’s okay because they truly represent who we are and what we expect from ourselves and what others should expect from us.  You may also have to prioritize your non-negotiables, especially if you have many, however, keeping in mind that if it’s a non-negotiable then it has to happen.  They are not something you can put off for tomorrow or next week.  They are part of who you are!


One non-negotiable I have is taking care of me!  My physical body, my mind, my spirit, my overall well-being is my biggest priority.  It’s an area of my life that is not open for discussion.  I will take care of me daily because I know I am a better person when I am healthy.  It’s not just exercise and nutrition, which are very important to me, but taking care of my spirit by keeping a focused relationship with Jesus Christ is my main motivator.  I know from experience that when I do not put this relationship before all others then I am not the person God has intended me to be.  You see, I can’t be me unless God is with me.  My daily prayer life, worship, and quiet time reading His word and taking guidance and direction from Him is what allows me to be the passionate woman that He has created me to be.  Yes, I am passionate about health, fitness and nutrition.  I know my passions come from God because He has revealed them to me.  I put 100% in just about everything I do.  This body I have, well, it’s was a gift and I was given the responsibility of taking care of it.  I mean, God dwells within me.  He is living inside of my body.  Why would I not want to take care of it?  It’s non-negotiable!  Taking care of me also includes daily exercise, healthy and nutritious eating habits, personal development, and community with other like-minded people who love me for who I am.


I am the type of person who has many non-negotiables.  I am an overachiever but not perfect  so I don’t think anyone would be surprised that I hold myself accountable for many different areas in my life.  Following are a few examples of other non-negotiables that are who I am and what YOU can expect from me:


-I keep my word and my commitments

-I follow through

-I hold true to my values

-I focus on ensuring I provide my family with health and nutrition guidance

The bottom line>> Jesus first, then my health, then try to the best wife, mom and friend to others.


When you feel great about you, your mind takes you to a new level of confidence and awareness. Trust me, this did not come naturally for me.  Four years ago,  I was unhealthy, and lacked the confidence as wife and mom.  And I did not any of these  non-negotiables placed in my life.  This is something that has evolved over time and it’s the compound effect.  Doing these non-negotiables over a period of time.  Am I perfect?  NO way!  Do I make mistakes?  Yes everyday!  The key is I have committed to a group of women in my Body & Soul Virtual Gym to work on my “SELF CARE”.  I have committed to exercising and following  one of our Beachbody Fitness programs each month.  Our fitness community helps me to stay aligned with the non-negotiables in my life.   Did you know that most people who share their goals with someone else are  more likely to achieve them versus someone that keeps it to themselves?   When others know.. YOU are less likely to QUIT on yourself.  When people believe in you, you will start BELIEVING in yourself as well.  


Ecclesiastes 5:4-7  (NIV)

“4 When you make a vow to God, do not delay to fulfill it. He has no pleasure in fools; fulfill your vow. 5 It is better not to make a vow than to make one and not fulfill it. 6 Do not let your mouth lead you into sin. And do not protest to the temple messenger, “My vow was a mistake.” Why should God be angry at what you say and destroy the work of your hands? 7 Much dreaming and many words are meaningless. Therefore fear God.”

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In this together, Joyfully!



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